Makes me want to Cry

It makes me want to cry the EVILNESS of people. I have been very open about the fact that I truly love and enjoy watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 on TLC. The Gosselins are a beautiful chiristian family, and they ARE despite recent nah-sayers, a very normal and extremely down to earth family. It broke my heart last night watching the openning season episode of the sextuplets 5th birthday party. Yes it was awful to see Jon & Kate's marriage struggling, but with my background in child psychology it was even more upseting to watch how their problems are 100% affecting the lives of ALL EIGHT of their children.

The twins are 9 going on 10 years old, and are showing signs of typical children in burdened families. For anyone who has watched the show you know that Mady has always struggled with having so many siblings, but it was very clear that she and Cara have become their mother's confidant and protecter. They have taken on the role of helping do anything they can to make their mommy happier not out of fear or force, but because they are acutely aware of what is happening with their parents.



At one point Alexis, 5yrs old, told her daddy last night, "Daddy, I don't want you to go away again, okay? Okay daddy?" She's always been the sweet loving cuddler of the girls, but you can tell her heart is confused and knows that things just aren't in place.

At 5 years old a struggle between parents is harder to understand than at 10 even. They are able to sense the tension and disconnect of the family, yet they are unable to determine what is causing it. This is why so many children with divorced parents feel that it is their fault that their parents got a divorce. It isn't because a parents has said, "This is because of YOU", but rather the fact out not saying it. It is important to explain to children WHY their parents are getting divorced-- and for the record, simple is never better. Never. Leaving out information will make it more complicated. And if parents don't give answers, children will create answers incorrectly for themselves.



This family is amazing-- they are a loving family. I'm not saying that because I want it to be, I'm saying it because they are. Kate is without a single doubt in my mind a loving wonderful mother, and John is a sweet, loving father. They haven't forgot how to be parents--- They have forgotten how to be partners. And that's understandable because for the last 5yrs, 365 days a year their lives have been about their kids, not their marriage, and even in Christian families Satan will make us all feel weak.

I pray to Jon and Kate that they both turn to God for guidance. They they put aside their wants, and what they feel is what their family needs, and that they surrender it all to Him. I pray that they realign their life so that God is number one again.



I know that she feels that she is doing this already, but without doing it WITH her husband they will get no where. The blame game is fruitless-- the only person that can fix their marriage is HIM, and I pray they realize this sooner rather than later.


I pray for every family struggling at this moment to make it "all" work. To survive these hard times, however little or a lot they are affected. I pray that the children that are in every single struggling family feel the presense of God in their lives and that they learn at a young age that God is always on THEIR side, and will be their to hold their hands through the bad stuff that gets really confusing.


If you're a nah-sayer. Stop. Just stop tearing other people down. What in the world is the point you're trying to make???? That people aren't perfect? Ok... I'm pretty sure we know that. That even tv families have big faults?? Yep, we get that too. If you're spending your time worrying about the well being of this family, or other people as well, I hope you're stopping to think how it would be if 1000s of people were blogging and gossiping about you and your children... and instead Start Praying.

Love Always,
KK